I’m Gay and known it my entire life!
I heard that it was a gay demon inside of me
making me this way and I need to stop it or I
will go to hell!! I really do not want to go to
hell, and cannot control my feelings I have for
guys! Do you really think I will go to hell for
being gay? I also heard that people are born
gay, because they have more female
chromosones, or something like that, that
makes them more female like. Same for
Lesbians.
Answer:
You’re gay because that’s the way God
wanted you to be. Throughout history, people
have found many ridiculous reasons to
condemn people to hell, including skin color,
nationality and sexual orientation. It’s fair to
judge the actions of other people, but not
their souls. That’s what’s really meant by the
quote, “Judge not, lest ye be judged.”
There have been studies that show that gay
men have brain stems that are structurally
different from those of straight men. Unless
you had yours surgically altered so you could
be gay, you’re no more responsible for your
sexual orientation than a straight man is for
his. If it’s any consolation, most of us grew up
hoping we’d fall in love, get married, have kids
and live the dream. It takes time to adjust to
the reality that we’re inherently gay. And
having other people insist they know God’s
plan for our lives just creates confusion and
self-hatred. If mere people knew so much,
why wouldn’t their lives be perfect?
If you believe that God has a plan for your life
and have known you were gay since childhood,
you obviously didn’t choose to be gay. And
everything people quote from scripture has
been translated multiple times from the
original text, so true meanings get lost along
the way. The commandment “thou shalt not
kill” was closer to “thou shalt not murder” in
its original form. The difference is subtle, but
substantial. And people who think they have
the power to condemn anyone to hell on
God’s behalf are in for a surprise.
I grew up in a devoutly Catholic home and my
father had even studied to be a priest. My
beliefs are still rooted in Catholicism, which is
pretty similar to most branches of Christianity.
After years of struggling with my sexual
orientation (and a pretty serious drinking
problem as a result), I realized that my fear of
condemnation had completely estranged me
from God. If I was convinced God hated me,
how could I love him? But I eventually realized
that I was inherently gay and all the hoping
and praying would have no effect on that. My
desire to be straight actually conflicted with
God’s plan for my life. Why was I born gay? I
haven’t a clue. But my family eventually
accepted me. And I have a lesbian friend
whose father (also a devout Catholic) told me
he believed God gave him a gay daughter so
that he (the father) would learn that God’s
creations know no limits. His daughter is a
doctor, she’s involved with charities, and she
holds herself up to the same standards that
would be expected of her if she were straight.
Other than the fact that she’s a lesbian, she’s
everything any father could want in a
daughter. But instead of making a lifelong
commitment to a man, she made one to a
woman.
Being gay doesn’t mean you have to be
promiscuous or swing from chandeliers.
People who do that perpetuate a stereotype
that doesn’t apply to most gays. If you have
religious beliefs that guide your behavior, you
can still apply those to your life as a gay man.
One of my friends (a guy) grew up in a strict
Baptist household and fought against his
nature for years because he was convinced
he’d go to hell if he acted on his impulses.
When he accepted that God had made him
gay, he still saved himself until he found his
life partner, since that was in keeping with his
religious beliefs.
Only God knows your soul and no one has the
authority to speak for God. Gay people are no
less capable of living good lives than straights
are, so let your conscience be your guide.
There are all sorts of things in the world that
can’t be explained, but our inability to
understand them doesn’t mean God didn’t
have his reasons