There is a huge difference between pretence and force.
Now some people pretend to be good with things or to be okay with things and some people force themselves to be oky with things and force themselves to be good in things. Now when you pretend it means you doing it for that time being and you want to get over with it but when you force it it means you are willing and want to do something even after that moment.
Try not to pretend to do thngs but force yourcelf to do good and rightfull things e.g (decisions,risks,) because mostly if people pretend or force thngs it normally because there is a decision, good or right thing they must do but not easy to do so some choose to pretend which does not help because when you pretend it means you doing it for people and some choose to force it which helps because they want to help themselves in the future and they understand that they are not pleasing people but doing it for self actualisation and self esteem .